At Columbia Fertility Associates, many of our patients are part of couples, and each person has a distinct role to play in the process. In fact, the role of the supporting partner — the one who is not physically undergoing treatment — can be just as important.
If that’s you, keep reading because there are many ways you can support your partner on this fertility journey.
Be a Good Listener
Going through fertility treatments can be an emotional rollercoaster. Your partner may experience a wide range of emotions, from hope and excitement to disappointment and grief. Be a good listener and provide a safe space for your partner to express their feelings. Allow them to talk about their fears and frustrations, and be supportive and understanding.
Educate Yourself About the Treatments
There are many different types of fertility treatments, each with their own unique challenges and requirements. Take the time to learn about the treatments your partner is undergoing, so you can better understand what they are going through physically and emotionally. This will help you to be more empathetic and naturally supportive.
Help Your Partner with Day-to-Day Tasks
Fertility treatments can be physically exhausting. Offer to help with practical tasks like cooking, cleaning and running errands. This will allow your partner to rest and focus on their health.
Be Patient
Fertility treatments can be a long process, and it can take time to see results. Be patient with your partner and don’t put undue pressure on them. Avoid making comments like, “Why isn’t this working?” or “When will we finally have a baby?” These types of comments can be hurtful and add to your partner’s stress.
Celebrate Small Victories
Fertility treatments can involve many small steps along the way, such as a successful hormone injection or an improved ultrasound result. Celebrate these small victories with your partner, as they can help to build hope and momentum.
Consider Counseling or Support Groups
It may be helpful to seek the guidance of a counselor or support group. Many couples find that talking to a professional can help them process their emotions and gain a new perspective on their situation.
Above all else, always remember that you are in this together — and you will get through it, together.
